Disabled couple share secrets to happy marriage

Jane and Graham relationshop advice SUS-150218-141145001
Jane and Graham relationshop advice SUS-150218-141145001

Two newly-weds have shared their secret to a happy marriage following a romantic Valentine’s weekend away.

Jane and Graham Thompson are both service users from Shinewater Court in Eastbourne and have multiple physical disabilities.

They told the Herald about married life and the importance of keeping the romance alive in relationships.

Graham said, “It was love at first sight, I saw Jane and said to my mother, “That is the woman I am going to marry!”

“Soon after, we started dating regularly and would go into town for coffee and once month would go to The Oak Barn for dinner.”

It was during one of these visits that Graham proposed to Jane, who asked him to give her two weeks to think about it.

However, within two days Jane came back to Graham to say yes.

Following an eight-year engagement, a number of wedding planning obstacles and issues finding an accessible venue, the pair married in August 2013.

Jane said, “Every year we go away for Valentine’s Day and this year we are going to Vitalise Netley Waterside House in Southampton. This is where we had our honeymoon so we have some lovely memories here. I expect Graham will take me for a nice meal on Valentine’s Day.”

Jane reveals she doesn’t have to wait until Valentine’s Day for Graham to be romantic, he regularly surprises her with flowers and the couple still enjoy regular dates.

Graham proves he certainly knows the best way to a woman’s heart.

Jane said, “Since I have been with Graham, I don’t think I have had to buy any new clothes as he is always treating me when we are out shopping.”

Jane and Graham, live together in a purpose-built bungalow. The centre provides accommodation and support for people with complex and high dependency needs, giving independence and lifestyle choices for adults with physical disabilities. The service is provided by the charity The Disabilities Trust.

Graham said, “I hate to think where we would be without The Disabilities Trust, we both view this as our long term home.”

Graham, who is visually impaired, said, “Jane is my eyes, she guides me, she is the person I will love and cherish for the rest of my life.

“What I love most about Jane is she is so supportive of me.”