The Business Coach with Laura Murphy: “I’m always ignored”

Question: “I want to progress within the company but every time I put my name forward for anything I get ignored. It’s very demoralising. What am I doing wrong?” Katy

Answer: OK, you know that you’ve got wonderful ideas, lots of potential to offer so what have you been doing to let people know that, before you put your name forward for things?

Take a close look at the people that have been successful. There are core attributes that they all have. The most important one is total confidence in themselves. By that I don’t mean the brash show-off type of confidence but a quiet belief that shows in your posture, your expressions and your ability to converse with people at any level. At the moment you’re giving out a message of desperation and despair which, although you may not realise it, subtly influences others’ responses to you. And not in a good way.

So, forget for the moment that you’re looking to climb the pole. Focus on being exceptional at your current role. Get a reputation with the movers and shakers of someone who knows what they’re doing, who can be trusted to get something done, who can look at something differently. Get to the stage where people are coming to you to talk about something, be it work related or otherwise.

Then find something that complements what you’re currently doing so that you can make a smooth transition into it which will raise your profile. You may be at the stage now where the boss will come to you but if not, you’ll now be in a better position to suggest the switch and for the boss to agree.


Laura Murphy is the founder of mtc2 ltd, a management consultancy, training and coaching company.  Laura is an organisation development specialist and business coach.  To solve your problem contact her at

Names and details have been changed to protect confidentiality.